What is a Broken Soul? Your soul is broken when who you are on the inside, doesn’t match who you are on the outside.
A broken soul is related to how you feel about yourself, your truest, deepest and most honest beliefs; your philosophy about life; your original ideas and sincerest thoughts, feelings, emotions and sense of what is right and wrong. Your soul is who you are when no one is looking; where no one else can see. Your outside persona includes your physical body, spoken and written words, habits, actions and behaviors.
How can a person break their soul?
Every time you lie to yourself, go against your own sense of fairness, compassion and integrity; fail to follow your dreams and utilize your gifts and talents, hurt someone you love consciously or unconsciously you detach the spiritual bond between your body and your soul. When you believe in one thing and you act and behave in an opposite manner, you become an empty vessel, a shell, a person without substance. Your physical body is alive, but it is hollow and vacant because it lacks integrity and meaning. Many of today’s young celebrities such as Lindsey Lohan, Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears, Nicole Richie and even the late Anna Nicole Smith may have broken souls. These young, wealthy, physically beautiful women have the outside appearance of prosperity, but their actions and behaviors do not exemplify inner peace.
We live in a culture that tells us that when ever something is ailing us; we can fix it with a psychotropic drug, weight loss or cosmetic surgery. The other portion of society tells us that we need to join organized religious communities. None of these suggestions are wrong depending on the individual’s personality and emotional needs; but it is essential and crucial that each person learn to take an honest look within them selves to determine if they are doing everything within their own power to their best of their ability to promote health, wealth, peace, love and happiness in their own lives.
The only way that you can re-attach your soul to your body is by aligning your thoughts, words and actions into one being.
Is a broken soul similar to a broken heart?
A broken heart can cause a broken soul when you continue to repeat the patterns that caused your heart to break. For example, continuing to pick the same type of guy without looking within yourself to analyze why you are attracted to certain types of men. However, a broken soul does not typically lead to broken heart because it is impossible to deeply care about others when you don’t truly know, love or care about yourself.
Examples of Broken Souls
Scenario A Fidelity
1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions / feelings
You believe in fidelity. You want to be in a relationship with a person whom you can trust.
2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You make a vow to be faithful. You tell your mate that you are faithful.
3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You cheat on your mate.
Scenario B Education
1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions / feelings
You believe that education is important. You have always wanted to practice law.
2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You tell everyone that you are going back to school to earn your degree.
3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You watch television and hang out with friends in the evenings. You picked up an application once, but never filled it out.
Scenario C Following your Dreams
1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions / feelings
You feel happiest when you are singing, dancing or involved in any type of performance. You love music with every cell of your heart, mind and body. People tell you that you are talented and gifted as a singer.
2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
To impress your parents, teachers and naysayers, you tell everyone that you are going to college to be a doctor.
3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You are enrolled in a pre-med program. You try to ignore the pain in your stomach, your headaches and the deep misery that you feel inside. You rationalize your unhappiness by telling yourself that doctors make good money and your family will be so proud of you.
Scenario D Being true to yourself
1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions / feelings
You love to write.
2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You tell every one about the book you are going to write some day.
3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You never write because you are tired when you get home from work and exhausted from the daily demands of taking care of your family.
Scenario E Being true to yourself
1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions / feelings
You want to lose weight to improve your health.
2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You tell every one that you are on a diet.
3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You don’t exercise. You make unhealthy food choices.
Scenario F Having Faith
1. Beliefs, personal moral code of right & wrong, honest emotions / feelings
In your heart and spirit, you believe in God, a Superior Being or a Higher Power bigger than yourself. You feel that your deepest dreams, desires, wants and needs will manifest in your life.
2. Words, what you tell others orally or in writing.
You tell everyone about your amazing faith, trust and belief in God or a Higher Power. You tell other people to have faith and believe.
3. Actions, behaviors, habits- What you do
You cry yourself to sleep each night because you are worried about your bills being paid and how you are going to provide for your family. You haven’t looked for a new job, or started your own business because people say, «the economy is bad.»
If you do an honest assessment of what is really bothering you and all of the things that you can start doing at this very moment to change your life, you will begin to heal your soul. Guaranteed.
10 Signs of a Broken Soul
1. You have a drinking or substance abuse problem.
2. You have been depressed for more than 6 weeks
3. You feel no enjoyment for life.
4. You are in a sexually, physically or psychologically abusive relationship.
5. You are actively involved in criminal or illegal activity.
6. You have reoccurring suicidal thoughts
7. You have an eating disorder
8. You are abusing someone else physically, psychologically or sexually.
9. You are not doing anything productive with your time.
10. You constantly complain about hating yourself or your life.
Techniques to heal a Broken Soul
1. Validate yourself. Start exactly where you are. Call your self beautiful. Start your business. Do not seek external validation from any one.
2. Go on a journey of self-exploration. What is your favorite color, food, song, movie, day of the week, holiday. Everything that you love is a clue to the mystery of who you are. The things that you love are internal pieces that create the external picture of who you are.
3. Forgive everything and everybody. No exceptions.
4. Practice random acts of kindness. Put a dime in an expired parking meter. Pay for someone’s breakfast, dinner or lunch without revealing yourself. Put toilet paper in a public restroom for the next person. Shovel someone’s snow or rake their leaves without them knowing who did it. Leave a tip on some else’s table. Find unique ways to put a smile on other people’s faces. Their smiles will make you smile.
5. Ask for forgiveness–it doesn’t matter if they accept your apology. This gives them the opportunity to heal when they are ready.
Forgive yourself for past mistakes.
6. Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself. Read the self-forgiveness letter to yourself each night until you are able to let go. You can’t forgive yourself until you are emotionally ready to forgive yourself.
7. Give yourself 6 months to make one change. Don’t try to change too many things about yourself at one time; this is overwhelming. If you try to stop smoking, don’t include losing 50 lbs, and find a cure for cancer. Take it slow and steady.
8. Watch Shawshank Redemption, the Pursuit of Happyness or any other movie that gives you hope.
9. Find one thing that you absolutely love about yourself and think about it once a day, all day long.